Being human

You are very scared of some things and not scared of somethings at all..
Does that make you a coward or does that make you brave.. ?
Conclusively you are neither.. you are just human...

You can think clearly sometimes and be completely foolish at other..
Does that make you intelligent or does it make you dumb..?
Conclusively you are neither.. you are just human...

I can write paragraphs, posing the same question, using different adjectives. However that's not the point.
My point is that what is human is inherently flawed-its eccentric, idiosyncratic, contradictory, incongruous, unbalanced, even repulsive and yet brilliant in some way. Our flaws make us human, we are the sum total of our imperfections..

The degree of our flaws determines the monstrosity or humantrosity(not even a word) of our nature. How cognizant we are of our flaws, how we accept them, how we challenge them, makes us human.I believe accepting our flaws is slightly easier than accepting the flaws of the people around us and living with them. Perhaps that's why god sold us the idea of love so that we could forgive him for his flawed creation and peacefully live with each other. There has never been a marketeer bigger than God and we humans are the perennial consumers!
I am pretty sure it is the Valentine's day effect that is making me talk about love and consumerism in the same breath. All the exhibitionism of love, sincerity of love, consumerism of love, tenderness of love, depravity of love, cynicism for love just froths up to the surface on this one day..

Somehow I end up writing a post every Valentine's day, this time its some arcane commentary about flawed humans and their flawed ways!

Happy Birthday!

Some of us are fortunate to have at least one true SOS friend.
And when she turns 30, you are glad that finally she is reaching an age of some wisdom- may be now she'll tell you to do something other than punch guys on their stupid faces.
May be now she'll make better judgement calls when she is talking to your parents about you.
May be now she won't confuse your past-present-future crushes and embarrass you in their very presence.
May be now she'll not ridicule you for the gifts that you pick up for her(voluntarily & involuntarily)..

I would never bet my money or for that matter even my useless 2007 Sony Ericsson Walkman phone on any of the above actually coming true.. Its all a bunch of wishful thinking and nothing more.. She'll never change, least of all because of some bully called turning 30..

But I hear you when you talk about all the unknowns in life. The ideal version of life and how we are still so far away and still so clueless. I don't know why our mind plays this trick on us and we feel this sudden urge to be all wise and grown up one fine day, all I can offer you is:
1. Sing you your birthday song in the most ridiculous tone I can summon(check done!)
2. Dedicate a post to you complete with pictures of you in a silver crown from our golden days(check-done!)
3. Little gyan- If all of life is sorted out, then spice kahan se aayega!

Again Happy Birthday.. :)

Can you laugh?

Some people I know can really laugh! Everyone can smile(mostly) but not everyone can laugh free and loud. I would first like to establish that there is a difference between a smile and a laugh, before I begin to describe the different laugh faces.

A laugh is open-both literally(you open your mouth) and figuratively(you open your heart). A good laugh is loud and clear. A good laugh is honest but not necessarily polite. A good laugh changes your countenance in noticeable ways- red cheeks, a little breathlessness, watery eyes, some people just begin to roll on the ground and some have to go for a wee-wee break!

A laugh is more dramatic than a smile in every way yet it is less confusing than a polite smile. Did he smile at me because he likes me, or am I reading too much..? Did the interviewer smile because he was impressed or he was inwardly laughing at my misery and stupidity? Why did that person give me a smile, do I know him? A smile is a border-line affair on a curve, most of the times you are guessing which side you are, on the other hand a laugh simply implies that something is genuinely funny. Smile is just too multi-functional and multi-dimensional for easy comprehension. A laugh is multidimensional as well(as I would soon explain in the next paragraph) but it has a singularity of purpose and so less confusing.

Lets explore the dimensional differences between different laughing styles.  Now this person I know when he laughs you can barely see his eyes, its like his cheeks hide away the eyes..there is someone when he smiles, there is this vein in his forehead that just swells up like a little continuation of his nose. Someone else who tears up completely when she laughs-teardrops the size of fat rain drops. I know of someone who has to tightly hold her stomach and open her mouth to breathe in so that she doesn't choke herself. There is someone who laughs so loudly that a closed room vibrates, another guy who sounds like a high pitched female when he laughs real loud. There are others who add some more dimensions to a loud laugh- clapping their hands, banging a table, tapping their feet. Its a performance!

At this point I should clarify that I am a dismal laugh person, i have to make do with smiling most of the times and I am envious of people who can laugh heartily. 

And if you have read this far, you perhaps already know if you can really "Laugh" proudly in your own signature style with no care for the world or for people like me who'll go ahead and write a blog about you!